As always, nagFB na naman ako and i found this quote dahil sa post ni Jumie:
Letting go is the easy part. It's the moving on that's painful. o sometime we fight it, trying to keep things the same. Things can't stay the same though. At some point you just have to let go, move on. Because no matter how painful it is, it's the only way we grow. - Meredith Grey
So true! nagstart na ako maglet go of things. one item a day or every other day. kahit ayoko. dahil maraming nakakabit na memories. o baka dahil may pagkasentimental lang ako. ang hirap. everyday is a struggle to be happy. kahit may mga tao o bagay na nakakapagpasaya naman sa akin, nararamdaman ko pa rin na may nawala. :( ang hirap magmove on. tumalikod at tumingin sa hinaharap. maging hopeful at positive.
mahirap din lalo na kung hindi naiintindihan ng ibang tao kung bakit. at kahit gusto mong iexplain at subukan iexplain, hindi nila maiintindihan. ikaw nga mismo hindi mo maintindihan eh, tapos gusto pa nila iexplain mo sa kanila. minsan di ko rin maintindihan bakit kailangan nilang malaman. bakit hindi ka na lang hayaan hanggang maging handa ka na ishare kung ano man ang gusto mo ishare. bakit ba feeling ng mga tao entitled sila na malaman ang dahilan?
ngayon ko lang naintindihan kung bakit hindi dapat masyadong matanong sa ibang tao lalo na kung sensitive ang topic. kung bakit kailangan mo magbigay ng time and space. sana maisip din ng iba yun.
Showing posts with label love. Show all posts
Showing posts with label love. Show all posts
of wanting to move on
its been almost 2 months...since we broke up.
today, i am partly sad, angry, relieved, happy, at peace, indifferent. i guess it depends on which side of the bed i wake up for the day.
although generally, im great most days knowing that this is a choice i made. but there are days when i still wonder, is this part of a bigger plan?is this how its really meant to be?
i guess it has been a habit of mine to wait and see and in most cases not to let things go too easily (for they may be just lost for now but eventually will be back), it's not a very good habit i might say.
for while looking back may be good, most of the time though, we may miss the good opportunity that is right in front of us.
there's a window of opportunity knocking now...but i'm afraid to answer. because i dont really know what will happen next should i take the leap. so many what ifs.
but then again...what if?
today, i am partly sad, angry, relieved, happy, at peace, indifferent. i guess it depends on which side of the bed i wake up for the day.
although generally, im great most days knowing that this is a choice i made. but there are days when i still wonder, is this part of a bigger plan?is this how its really meant to be?
i guess it has been a habit of mine to wait and see and in most cases not to let things go too easily (for they may be just lost for now but eventually will be back), it's not a very good habit i might say.
for while looking back may be good, most of the time though, we may miss the good opportunity that is right in front of us.
there's a window of opportunity knocking now...but i'm afraid to answer. because i dont really know what will happen next should i take the leap. so many what ifs.
but then again...what if?
Let Me Love You
I found this note while browsing through Facebook. You can view the actual note here. It is such a timely message at this time when I have just made one of the biggest decisions in my life. I just wanted to share this with you in the hopes that you might find it useful too.
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In one of his books, Cardinal Danielou says that “Love should not be unilateral, but should entail a real reciprocity. Love consists as much in receiving as it does in giving.” I find that a rather perceptive insight, and I think it is borne out by experience. We have been taught from the time that we were little kids that love means giving and sharing. That’s true. We have to share what we have with those we love. And so we teach our children to share their candy with their brothers and sisters. We teach them to be generous with their friends.
But I think that sometimes it is a greater act of love to accept graciously and thankfully when those we love give something to us. We really can’t give anything to God, you know. He is everything and has everything. So how can we love Him? If love consisted only in giving, we wouldn’t be able to love God at all. But we do love Him when we accept what He gives us and say, “Thank you.” One way to love is to give to those we love. But the other, perhaps greater, act of love, is to receive. When we have them both—giving and receiving in love—we have Danielou’s reciprocity, the perfection of love.
In most human relationships, one gives a little more than the other, and one, perhaps, receives a little more. Because of our human nature, our background and our individual needs, there is always that human inequality in giving and receiving love. A perfectly mutual and reciprocal love is a very rare gift. Imagine what love would be like if each both gave and received a hundred percent! But St. Augustine says that kind of perfect love exists only in God, where each Person in the Trinity gives and receives the perfection of love.
It’s much easier for most of us to give love than to receive it. That may sound strange, but I think it is true. When we give love, we are in control. We can pick the person to love, we can decide how to love, how much to love, and when to love. But when we receive love, we are no longer in control. We have to let the other person decide to love or not, or how much to love. All we can do is accept the love that is offered. To a certain extent we are helpless, and that is much, much harder.
Danielou says there is a certain superiority when we love others, and a certain helplessness when others love us. We can choose those we want to love, but we cannot always choose those who love us. I think that is one of the most beautiful things in the world—and also one of the hardest.
I often ask students on retreat whether it is harder to love or to be loved. Most of them answer that it is harder to love, it is harder to give. Maybe that is because they just concentrate on the giving part of love. But some of the more thoughtful students think about if for awhile and then answer that it is much harder to be loved, because it is much harder to receive.
To let another person love you—really love you—is a very hard thing to do. Not to tell him how to love you, or when or where, but just to accept his love in the way he wants to give it. I think that’s why so many of us fight God sometimes. We want Him to love us in our way and not His. We want Him to do this or that for us because He loves us. We can’t sit back and accept His love in the way He wants to give it to us. I think that is why sometimes we fight with those we love, too. We want them to love us in our way, and when they don’t do that, we get angry with them. We can’t understand their love sometimes because it’s not “My Way.”
One of the greatest joys you can give anyone is to show him that you expect something from him, that he has something to contribute to you, to teach and reveal to you, to share with you. “You have something to give to me in love, and I need what you can give to me.” That’s not giving love. That’s accepting love which can, in itself, become the most beautiful surrender of love that exists.
Many people complain that they give so much and they never get anything in return. Part of the reason is, perhaps, that they have never learned how to accept love. One of the lines I remember from a romantic movie many years ago was when the man said to the woman: “Please stop arguing and talking so much. Just let me love you!” I think God says the same thing to us.
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In one of his books, Cardinal Danielou says that “Love should not be unilateral, but should entail a real reciprocity. Love consists as much in receiving as it does in giving.” I find that a rather perceptive insight, and I think it is borne out by experience. We have been taught from the time that we were little kids that love means giving and sharing. That’s true. We have to share what we have with those we love. And so we teach our children to share their candy with their brothers and sisters. We teach them to be generous with their friends.
But I think that sometimes it is a greater act of love to accept graciously and thankfully when those we love give something to us. We really can’t give anything to God, you know. He is everything and has everything. So how can we love Him? If love consisted only in giving, we wouldn’t be able to love God at all. But we do love Him when we accept what He gives us and say, “Thank you.” One way to love is to give to those we love. But the other, perhaps greater, act of love, is to receive. When we have them both—giving and receiving in love—we have Danielou’s reciprocity, the perfection of love.
In most human relationships, one gives a little more than the other, and one, perhaps, receives a little more. Because of our human nature, our background and our individual needs, there is always that human inequality in giving and receiving love. A perfectly mutual and reciprocal love is a very rare gift. Imagine what love would be like if each both gave and received a hundred percent! But St. Augustine says that kind of perfect love exists only in God, where each Person in the Trinity gives and receives the perfection of love.
It’s much easier for most of us to give love than to receive it. That may sound strange, but I think it is true. When we give love, we are in control. We can pick the person to love, we can decide how to love, how much to love, and when to love. But when we receive love, we are no longer in control. We have to let the other person decide to love or not, or how much to love. All we can do is accept the love that is offered. To a certain extent we are helpless, and that is much, much harder.
Danielou says there is a certain superiority when we love others, and a certain helplessness when others love us. We can choose those we want to love, but we cannot always choose those who love us. I think that is one of the most beautiful things in the world—and also one of the hardest.
I often ask students on retreat whether it is harder to love or to be loved. Most of them answer that it is harder to love, it is harder to give. Maybe that is because they just concentrate on the giving part of love. But some of the more thoughtful students think about if for awhile and then answer that it is much harder to be loved, because it is much harder to receive.
To let another person love you—really love you—is a very hard thing to do. Not to tell him how to love you, or when or where, but just to accept his love in the way he wants to give it. I think that’s why so many of us fight God sometimes. We want Him to love us in our way and not His. We want Him to do this or that for us because He loves us. We can’t sit back and accept His love in the way He wants to give it to us. I think that is why sometimes we fight with those we love, too. We want them to love us in our way, and when they don’t do that, we get angry with them. We can’t understand their love sometimes because it’s not “My Way.”
One of the greatest joys you can give anyone is to show him that you expect something from him, that he has something to contribute to you, to teach and reveal to you, to share with you. “You have something to give to me in love, and I need what you can give to me.” That’s not giving love. That’s accepting love which can, in itself, become the most beautiful surrender of love that exists.
Many people complain that they give so much and they never get anything in return. Part of the reason is, perhaps, that they have never learned how to accept love. One of the lines I remember from a romantic movie many years ago was when the man said to the woman: “Please stop arguing and talking so much. Just let me love you!” I think God says the same thing to us.
countdown to july
I can't help but get teary-eyed as I hugged Chubby before leaving him at the airport terminal. It will be several months before I get to see him again. And it seems that it's a cycle of coming and going for both of us.
As I eagerly wait for his homecoming, I am putting up a list of things I'd like us to do when he gets back. :)
As I eagerly wait for his homecoming, I am putting up a list of things I'd like us to do when he gets back. :)
- eat at Cafe Noriter. I saw this from my friend Tippy's fb page and it seems like an interesting place. I've also seen some pictures of my brother Charlie hanging out here. They are also open for franchising which might be a cool idea.
- eat at Laya. I've been meaning to set a reservation here since last year but haven't found the time to do so since our weekends are always hectic due to our work schedules. And when we finally found the time, they closed shop. :( only to re-open again at Pinto Art Museum! so hopefully we get to have the chance to taste their food and enjoy the ambiance.
- eat at Pan de Amerikana. We still have not eaten at the upside down house.
- try Teriyaki Boy's Yogato. We we're intrigued by Azuki Nori Yogato which had tempura flakes, seaweed sprinkles and red beans! But I think I will stick with the safe choice which is Ichigo with all the strawberry flavored things. And also because it's pink. :)
- eat taro-papaya combi yogurt at Yoggle! it's an odd flavor but it works!
- start a fitness regimen. Ok, so after all our foodie escapades, we should also allot time to be body beautiful because we want to...
- take a vacation at Boracay! Chubby has never been there and the last time I went there was more than 5 years ago. We need to be beach-ready!
- decide on our Financial and Business goals...short, medium and long-term.
all we need is love
I came across an interesting article today on Yahoo! about the best advise Warren Buffet has ever received.
[In an exclusive interview with Yahoo! News and the Huffington Post, he credited his father with teaching him how to live, and explained that all parents can make a "better human being":
"The power of unconditional love. I mean, there is no power on earth like unconditional love. And I think that if you offered that to your child, I mean, you’re 90 percent of the way home. There may be days when you don’t feel like it — it’s not uncritical love; that’s a different animal — but to know you can always come back, that is huge in life. That takes you a long, long way. And I would say that every parent out there that can extend that to their child at an early age, it’s going to make for a better human being."
Buffett spoke from Sun Valley, Idaho, while attending the Allen & Company conference, an annual gathering of technology and media leaders.] (To view the full article, click here)
I was expecting some sort of financial advice and his response really caught me of guard. Most of the time, LOVE is all it takes.
[In an exclusive interview with Yahoo! News and the Huffington Post, he credited his father with teaching him how to live, and explained that all parents can make a "better human being":
"The power of unconditional love. I mean, there is no power on earth like unconditional love. And I think that if you offered that to your child, I mean, you’re 90 percent of the way home. There may be days when you don’t feel like it — it’s not uncritical love; that’s a different animal — but to know you can always come back, that is huge in life. That takes you a long, long way. And I would say that every parent out there that can extend that to their child at an early age, it’s going to make for a better human being."
Buffett spoke from Sun Valley, Idaho, while attending the Allen & Company conference, an annual gathering of technology and media leaders.] (To view the full article, click here)
I was expecting some sort of financial advice and his response really caught me of guard. Most of the time, LOVE is all it takes.
worst fear
The other day, I was chatting with a friend and it came to a point where I told him that I already wanted to get married because I was scared of not being able to conceive especially because I have a thyroid problem.
The truth was, I was scared. But not because of not being able to have kids. But because I am scared that nobody would want me for me. Silly right?
I'm insecure when it comes to that. Sometimes I feel that I'm a bad person that I won't find a person that will stick with me once he gets to know the real me. I know I shouldn't let my past relationship failures get to me but sometimes I cannot help it.
So now, I'm taking it one step at a time. After all, it has been almost a year since Pitt left and we're still together. Although most of the time I wish he was here, I'm glad I had the chance to be alone and reflect on thoughts that I have been ignoring for so long.
It isn't so bad after all.
The truth was, I was scared. But not because of not being able to have kids. But because I am scared that nobody would want me for me. Silly right?
I'm insecure when it comes to that. Sometimes I feel that I'm a bad person that I won't find a person that will stick with me once he gets to know the real me. I know I shouldn't let my past relationship failures get to me but sometimes I cannot help it.
So now, I'm taking it one step at a time. After all, it has been almost a year since Pitt left and we're still together. Although most of the time I wish he was here, I'm glad I had the chance to be alone and reflect on thoughts that I have been ignoring for so long.
It isn't so bad after all.
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