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Following your heart and pursuing your dreams

I graduated from Ateneo in 2003. I don't remember our commencement speaker, nor do I remember the speech he made. But what I do know is that it isn't a coincidence that I come across this message now that I am unemployed, so to speak, and still deciding what I am going to do with my life.

I'm sharing with you Secretary Robredo's speech during our commencement exercises. It is only now that I have fully "heard" what he said. Hopefully, it also touches your heart as it did mine.

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Ateneo de Manila
Commencement Exercises
March 29, 2003

FOLLOW YOUR HEART; PURSUE YOUR DREAM
BY JESSE M. ROBREDO
CITY MAYOR, NAGA CITY

Reverend Fr. Ben Nebres,
Distinguished Members of the Board of Trustees,
Reverend Fathers of the Society of Jesus,
My Dear Graduates, My Dear Parents,
Ladies and gentlemen,
Good Afternoon

I am deeply honored to be your Commencement Speaker today.

I must confess though, that I do not consider myself prominent enough to merit the
invitation.  More so, because I come from that other equally distinguished school along
Taft Avenue.  Nevertheless, like I always  do when called upon, I will give it my best
shot.

Humbly I stand before you today.  Humbly I relish the thought that perhaps one of the
reasons why you have chosen me as your Commencement Speaker is that you want me to
share with you our experiences in Naga City and the lessons we have learned.

You, my dear graduates, might wonder why after six years in the comfort of the private
sector, I decided to involve myself in the murky world of local politics.

It is not common that we find young men and women, at their early stage, stake their
future in politics.  The old fashioned way is for older or more seasoned men, especially
those who have been successful in their profession, to indulge in politics as a rewarding
refuge. In my case, I simply wanted to go home and see what I can share to the city of my
birth.

A STRONG HEART

Fifteen years ago, a politician relative of mine asked me to run for mayor in Naga City. I
was barely 29 years old then, a virtual unknown in the political arena.  It was a difficult
time to survive for anybody with Marcos connection. It was an easy time to thrive for
anyone with the spirit of EDSA. Thus, even if I was able to garner only 24% of the votes,
I nonetheless made it to City Hall.

What I got into was a city in shambles. The city government had a huge budgetary
deficit; City Hall employees were underpaid, their morale was low; the local economy
was sluggish; and the central business district was a classic example of disorder and
congestion.

I had a weak mandate, made even weaker by a system of political patronage. But I did
not have an equally weak heart. I knew in my mind the kind of governance we would
pursue. The options were clear. We either provide a leadership that was exclusive and
authoritarian or a leadership that was inclusive and consultative ----- a leadership that
imposes its will on its constituency or a leadership that encourages people participation
and engagement.

We understood that we did not have the monopoly of wisdom.  We felt that we should
know when to lead and when to be led.

We chose to take the side of our constituency. We fully wagered our political future on
their response. To secure their confidence, we tackled long-standing problems that beset
the city --- vice, urban blight, red tape, graft and corruption, and poor tax collection. We
organized and reached out to all the sectors of the city --- the sidewalk vendors, drivers,
urban poor, farmers, labor groups, professional circles, business federations, nongovernment organizations and even religious associations.

PARTICIPATORY GOVERNANCE

We viewed the poor, of which Naga had plenty, as our partners and assets.  We launched
Kaantabay sa Kauswagan (Partners in Deveopment) Program, a program that has so far
provided security of tenure to 5,000 squatter families.  Today, they are proud owners of
homelots in neighborhoods that speak of their dignity as empowered citizens of the city.
Working with the poor, we resolved long-standing land tenure problems dating back to
the 1950s. Such was our success that no less than the United Nations Center for Human
Settlements made our program a model in the 1996 Habitat II Conference in Turkey.

We viewed our constituency, regardless of their political affiliations, as our partners and
assets.  We enacted a People Empowerment Ordinance, the first of its kind in the country,
which instituted the Naga City People’s Council.  This Council, a federation of over a
hundred non-government and people’s organizations, has representatives who are
empowered to propose legislations and vote at the committee level of the city council.

Today we engage ourselves in a program that looks at every Nagueno as the focal point
of what government enterprise is all about. We call it the i-Governance Program. It not
only recognizes the citizen’s  right to know but also encourages them to engage their
government by freely providing them with information on what their elected leaders are
accountable for. It has two basic tools: the Naga City Citizen’s Charter, the first of its
kind in the country and the  . These tools are both designed to 
empower the citizen by promoting transparency and accountability. It makes accessible to 3
every citizen the services of the city by detailing step-by-step procedure to avail each of
the services, the standard response time for the delivery of the service and the city official
responsible for its delivery. It also features the city’s budget and procurements, bidding
notices and other finances so that the people would know  where their taxes are being
spent. Because of transparent governance and accessibility of information, construction
of roads and purchases of supplies and medicines cost much less in Naga City than
government standards.

DRAMATIC REBOUND

The People Empowerment Ordinance has resulted in a dramatic rebound for the City of
Naga.  By the end of my third term as city mayor in 1998, we have regained our stature
as the premier city of the Bicol Region. Quantitatively this meant that Naga City posted
one of the highest growth rates in the country at 6.5% per year from 1995 to 1998 ---- one
of the lowest rate of poverty incidence at 29%, compared to the region’s 50%.  Also,
Naga City’s average household income is 42% higher than the  national average and
126% higher than the regional average.

The rebound was described by Asiaweek Magazine as “more institutional than physical”
even as it acclaimed Naga City as one of the 4 Most Improved Cities in Asia in 1999. For
similar reasons, Naga City was presented the Dubai-UNCHS International Award for the
10 World’s Best Practices in Urban Governance and for its Participatory Planning
Initiatives in 1998.

CHANGING PARADIGMS

Why am I relating to you all these, my dear graduates?

It is because in some Asian countries and even in our beloved country, people say that
democratic principles cannot work, and that the Oriental model of “ruling with a hard
hand” is the call of the hour.

We disagree.  At least at the local level  – in Naga City – people’s participation in
governance works.  Out experience in Naga is our best argument against the traditional
and authoritarian ways in managing people and government.

The quality of life in Naga City may not be at par with those of the developed countries
but what Naga City lacked in material wealth is compensated by its sense of community
– how its citizens interact with their fellowmen – with how its scarce resources are shared
– with how misfortunes and natural calamities are met with resilience.

I do believe that the goal of government is not simply to put as much food on the table for
as many people as possible.  Government must engage the hearts and minds of people to
make these efforts sustainable.  Government must make people experience that people in
government are not masters but servants.

Our experience has shown that our people are our best resource and our best hope.  Our
experience, and that of many others, has shown that if we  cannot do it at the national
level, we can begin at the local level.  Collectively, successful local governments, driven
by constituencies who are well informed, constructively engaged, and willing to share the
burden of community building, can build our country.

Despite all our problems, I know we shall overcome.  It just might be a matter of
changing course. It just might be a matter of leading from the bottom rather than being
herded by the top.

Again, why am I relating to you all these, my dear graduates?

It is because I am certain that many of you will be leaders of our country someday. When
I met with some of you a few weeks ago, someone said that at least four of you wanted to
become President of the country.  But is it not ironic that while many of our leaders have
succeeded in achieving their personal goals, the country has lagged behind? Maybe, it is
because they have failed to make heroes out of the ordinary Filipino. Maybe it is because
they have relied solely on their own capacities, rather than on the  contributions of the
ordinary people they are responsible for.

MAKING HEROES OUT OF THE ORDINARY

Not all of you will graduate with honors or  with distinctions.  Only a few will be
privileged to receive medals and honors.  But all of you tonight will come up this stage
and be honored with an Ateneo diploma.

Not that I am giving less importance to the  honor graduates. We  know that they have
significant roles to play. But I would like to focus more on the majority of the graduates
this year.  I was just like one of you when I graduated from college in 1980.  To you, I
address my experience in Naga City --- for it is our kind, the ordinary, regular kid on the
bloc, who made the City of Naga rise over its difficulties.

Our political history has shown that we have put the burden of running this country on
our “best” people for too long. And yet the gap between the rich and the poor has grown
wider.  For this country to succeed, we need to make heroes of the ordinary Filipino.  We
need to make heroes of ourselves.

I must say that the ordinary employees --- the revenue collector, the maintenance worker
and the street sweeper --- have made the success of Naga possible. In Naga City, we have
a woman street sweeper, who held on to her broom for twenty years.  Literally, she had
swept every square inch of the city’s business district.  But through sheer determination,
she was able to finish her secondary studies in a night school and graduated, at 54, with a
bachelor’s degree. This was some 8 years after her daughters had theirs.  To her the City
of Naga conferred the Mayoral Award for becoming an inspiration to ordinary citizens,
one who despite overwhelming odds, has risen above them.  Today her broom has 5
become a diploma.  The woman was not an honor graduate --- but an ordinary citizen,
struggling to make life better for her family.

Why am I relating this to you, my dear graduates, and my dear ladies and gentlemen?
It is because the world today lacks the values that used to mould the disposition and the
character of the ordinary citizen.

The world today has so developed that layers upon layers of behavioral patterns and
lifestyles have virtually hidden what is basic and essential in life.  As one tired and retired
government employee remarked, “One learns many things when one gets to be my age.
But one has to unlearn many more things that one has gathered with age.”

The world today, despite the advances in science and technology, has yet to learn about
how to live, what to do, and how to be.

In pre-school, as bestseller writer Robert Fulghum observed, we used to be taught these:
“Share everything.  Play fair.  Do not cheat.  Put things back where you find them. Clean
up your own mess.  Don’t take things that aren’t yours. When you go out into the world,
hold hands and stick together.”

How sad ---after ten years in basic education  and four years in higher education -- we
seem to have forgotten the basic tenets learned in pre-school.

When graduates go out into the world of  business or politics or entertainment or
government service, will they still “share everything”, “play fair”, “put things back where
they find them” and “clean their own mess”?

When graduates go out into the world, will they not cheat, will they not take things that
aren’t theirs, will they hold hands and stick together?

Our experience in Naga City is nothing but our personal encounter with the necessity of
returning to the basics of governance --- a return to the essential meaning of service --- a
return to what is simple and practical ---  a return to that state when ordinary people
actively participate in the affairs of the government --- a return to the values that our
forefathers taught us:  the value of honesty, hard work, of fairness and most all the holy
fear of a just God.

SMALL FISH IN A BIG POND

This Address will not be complete without venturing to answer the question as to where
will you go from here.

Should you choose to be a big fish in a small pond, or a small fish in a big pond?
Whatever your doubts are, follow your heart.  When I left San Miguel Corporation, in
1986, to serve the government, many well-meaning friends advised me not to.  But I 6
knew that serving home was where my heart was. I must say that desire and commitment
far outweigh knowledge and skill. The latter can be learned. Without the former, your
life’s work will be a profession and not a vocation.  Find your own niche.  Chance careers
if you must.  But make sure you succeed.  You must always remember that you cannot
give what you do not have.  Measure success in terms of how pleased you are with what
you have done and not as to how other people define it, with its attendant perks.

Choose the path where you can make the most out of yourselves, while at the same time
helping others make the most out of themselves.  Later on in life, you will realize that it is
neither your successes nor your conquests that will give you satisfaction.  It is your
contribution that really matters – paying back what you owe the community that nurtured
you.

THE CHILD IN US

Let me end by narrating to you the conversations I had with Grade 6 pupils of a public
school in Panicuason, a mountain barangay in Naga City, and some four years ago.

Some of these children had to walk 3 to 4 kilometers daily just to attend school. Among
the things I asked them was what their ambitions in life were? A boy said he wanted to be
a doctor someday.  I asked him why.  He said he wanted to be a doctor because there was
no doctor in the barangay. When somebody gets sick, the patient has to be transported to
downtown Naga, 16 kilometers away, to get medical attention. A girl said he wanted to
be a teacher so that she would make sure that all the children in her barangay would go to
school.  She was saddened because some children were asked to tend the farm even on
schooldays. Another boy said he wanted to be an engineer so he would improve the roads
and provide irrigation systems for the farmers.

Like all of us, all of them wanted to be somebody someday.  But despite their
deprivations and difficulties, they were all for a noble purpose – to be of service to others.
Not one of them said that it was for fame, money or power.  They were so young, yet
they know what was good for their community and for others.

As you leave your beloved Alma Mater and pursue your own dreams, do not forget the
child in you. Keep in your hearts always the Ateneo idealism of being men and women
for others. Hold on to it because I am sure you will do no wrong if you keep that idealism
as your guiding light.

Congratulations. Good evening.

Source: http://www.naga.gov.ph/cityhall/ADEMU_03292003.pdf

15 Things You Should Give Up To Be Happy

I got this while browsing through Facebook. :) it might be helpful to follow these on your path to happiness. :)

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15 Things You Should Give Up To Be Happy


Here is a list of 15 things which, if you give up on them, will make your life a lot easier and much, much happier. We hold on to so many things that cause us a great deal of pain, stress and suffering – and instead of letting them all go, instead of allowing ourselves to be stress free and happy – we cling on to them. Not anymore. Starting today we will give up on all those things that no longer serve us, and we will embrace change. Ready? Here we go:
1. Give up your need to always be right. There are so many of us who can’t stand the idea of being wrong – wanting to always be right – even at the risk of ending great relationships or causing a great deal of stress and pain, for us and for others. It’s just not worth it. Whenever you feel the ‘urgent’ need to jump into a fight over who is right and who is wrong, ask yourself this question: “Would I rather be right, or would I rather be kind?”Wayne Dyer. What difference will that make? Is your ego really that big?

2. Give up your need for control. 
Be willing to give up your need to always control everything that happens to you and around you – situations, events, people, etc. Whether they are loved ones, coworkers, or just strangers you meet on the street – just allow them to be. Allow everything and everyone to be just as they are and you will see how much better will that make you feel.
“By letting it go it all gets done. The world is won by those who let it go. But when you try and try. The world is beyond winning.” Lao Tzu
3. Give up on blame. Give up on your need to blame others for what you have or don’t have, for what you feel or don’t feel. Stop giving your powers away and start taking responsibility for your life.
4. Give up your self-defeating self-talk. Oh my. How many people are hurting themselves because of their negative, polluted and repetitive self-defeating mindset? Don’t believe everything that your mind is telling you – especially if it’s negative and self-defeating. You are better than that.
“The mind is a superb instrument if used rightly. Used wrongly, however, it becomes very destructive.” Eckhart Tolle
5. Give up your limiting beliefs about what you can or cannot do, about what is possible or impossible. From now on, you are no longer going to allow your limiting beliefs to keep you stuck in the wrong place. Spread your wings and fly!
“A belief is not an idea held by the mind, it is an idea that holds the mind” Elly Roselle
6. Give up complaining. Give up your constant need to complain about those many, many, maaany things – people, situations, events that make you unhappy, sad and depressed. Nobody can make you unhappy, no situation can make you sad or miserable unless you allow it to. It’s not the situation that triggers those feelings in you, but how you choose to look at it. Never underestimate the power of positive thinking.
7. Give up the luxury of criticism. Give up your need to criticize things, events or people that are different than you. We are all different, yet we are all the same. We all want to be happy, we all want to love and be loved and we all want to be understood. We all want something, and something is wished by us all.
8. Give up your need to impress others. Stop trying so hard to be something that you’re not just to make others like you. It doesn’t work this way. The moment you stop trying so hard to be something that you’re not, the moment you take of all your masks, the moment you accept and embrace the real you, you will find people will be drawn to you, effortlessly.
9. Give up your resistance to change. Change is good. Change will help you move from A to B. Change will help you make improvements in your life and also the lives of those around you. Follow your bliss, embrace change – don’t resist it.
“Follow your bliss and the universe will open doors for you where there were only walls” 
Joseph Campbell
10. Give up labels. Stop labeling those things, people or events that you don’t understand as being weird or different and try opening your mind, little by little. Minds only work when open. “The highest form of ignorance is when you reject something you don’t know anything about.” Wayne Dyer
11. Give up on your fears. Fear is just an illusion, it doesn’t exist – you created it. It’s all in your mind. Correct the inside and the outside will fall into place.
“The only thing we have to fear, is fear itself.”
 Franklin D. Roosevelt
12. Give up your excuses. Send them packing and tell them they’re fired. You no longer need them. A lot of times we limit ourselves because of the many excuses we use. Instead of growing and working on improving ourselves and our lives, we get stuck, lying to ourselves, using all kind of excuses – excuses that 99.9% of the time are not even real.
13. Give up the past. I know, I know. It’s hard. Especially when the past looks so much better than the present and the future looks so frightening, but you have to take into consideration the fact that the present moment is all you have and all you will ever have. The past you are now longing for – the past that you are now dreaming about – was ignored by you when it was present. Stop deluding yourself. Be present in everything you do and enjoy life. After all life is a journey not a destination. Have a clear vision for the future, prepare yourself, but always be present in the now.
14. Give up attachment. This is a concept that, for most of us is so hard to grasp and I have to tell you that it was for me too, (it still is) but it’s not something impossible. You get better and better at with time and practice. The moment you detach yourself from all things, (and that doesn’t mean you give up your love for them – because love and attachment have nothing to do with one another,  attachment comes from a place of fear, while love… well, real love is pure, kind, and self less, where there is love there can’t be fear, and because of that, attachment and love cannot coexist) you become so peaceful, so tolerant, so kind, and so serene. You will get to a place where you will be able to understand all things without even trying. A state beyond words.
15. Give up living your life to other people’s expectations. Way too many people are living a life that is not theirs to live. They live their lives according to what others think is best for them, they live their lives according to what their parents think is best for them, to what their friends, their enemies and their teachers, their government and the media think is best for them. They ignore their inner voice, that inner calling. They are so busy with pleasing everybody, with living up to other people’s expectations, that they lose control over their lives. They forget what makes them happy, what they want, what they need….and eventually they forget about themselves.  You have one life – this one right now – you must live it, own it, and especially don’t let other people’s opinions distract you from your path.

Source: Purpose Fairy

positivity

I haven't been very religious in following my 2010 goal to be quite positive all the time and last Sunday, I was reminded again by an article from a newspaper about it. And it seems that the universe is also reminding me to do so through other people.

So starting today, I will try my very best to dismiss all negative thoughts/actions/words. 

God help me.

how was the election for you?

my family and i went to the precint at 8am. the lines were already long and there were only 3 rooms that will accommodate all of the voters in our area. generally the flow was orderly except for the usual incidents of people trying to cut lines. there were also a lot of senior citizens voting which made things kind of slower since they no longer needed to line up and were allowed to vote first.

i wonder why they don't arrest the people handing out flyers of candidates and sample ballots when clearly it is against the law. plus, they are adding trash in the area. i do hope that in the next election they will penalize candidates who have people distributing campaign paraphernalia near the precints and who put up materials where they are not supposed to (like electric posts/wires, etc).


(taken while waiting for our turn to vote. it is best to take a bath after and not before going there so you don't waste water :) )